Monthly Archives: October 2010
When I was 26 years old, I felt an immense creative urge rise up inside of me. To write a book.
A book to help college students live their passions and dreams. And it was an utterly FRIGHTENING urge.
I couldn't have been more insecure about my writing when the desire to write this book broadsided me. And backing up my deep insecurity was the fact that I was in fact, a bad writer. (I've got the early pages still to prove it).
But despite insecurity, fear, doubt, lack of a good reason (I was informed that the long arduous, six month writing task would likely only earn me $5000 over the long run) – despite these things plus a lack of time, I dove into the urge because on the other side of my negatives, I could feel a blissful desire to go for it.
That was 15 years ago. I finished the book. It has thus far sold 120,000 copies.
But if you want to really know why you should answer your most blissful callings, even when doing so seems to daunting, here's your answer:
Today I received this email from a young woman who's name I will keep private:
"First of all, you should know that I have never felt the need to write to an author before, though I have read many books. However, I feel you deserve to know the effect your book Major in Success (4th edition) has had on me.
I honestly believe that this book has saved my life. Though I received letter upon letter from well-known schools from all around the country (including Harvard, Caltech, MIT, and Rice) during my senior year of high school, I was no nearer to knowing what I wanted to do. Most letters remained unopened, and all ended up in a looming pile stuffed in the corner of my room and forever haunting my mind. I was completely clueless about what college to go to and what to study. Even when I was in grade school the question "What do you want to be when you grow up?" filled me with an unmitigable horror. This is because I thought that I had to pick a life-long career at only 17 years of age. I knew I was clueless and depressed, for I had no idea of where I wanted to go in life. I was reading books to escape my life, trying to cover up the pile of confusion stuck in my mind. And that's when I realized that I should read books to help me figure out my life instead of escape it. I checked out your book, expecting it to show me how to pick a major. Little did I know it would completely change my outlook on life.
You taught me that I don't need to figure out my entire life before college–instead you encouraged me to use college to figure out my interests. You taught me to always do what I liked and what I think is interesting, no matter what others may think. You even taught me to admit even my wildest dreams to myself, no matter how unreachable they may seem (including writing a book of my own). But what I am most thankful to you for is the calming sense of relief you have given me. I am forever thankful to you for helping me remove the horrific pile of uncertainty and distress from the corner of my mind.
I am now a freshman at the University of Wisconsin, with an undeclared major. I am using this time to take classes that explore my main interests–literature, math, and chemistry–and I've been exploring different clubs. I'm still not exactly sure what I want to do after college, but I am following your advice and keeping a journal. Maybe someday, once I have my "dream job" I will be one of your success stories.
I just have two questions: Do you really believe that if someone follows what they really love that they will eventually succeed–even if the job is rare and unusual? Is it really a lie that the "coolest jobs are one in a million" and "require great talent" (p. 20)?"
There is a person somewhere in the world, and somewhere in time who is waiting for you to give your gift.
When are you going to give it?
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Ten days ago, on 10/10/10, we launched the revolution. On a whisper.
It was raw, rough and unrehearsed –
just as every revolution must begin.
But it was REAL.
And for the historical records, four people – ready for a new HOW –
heard the whisper, and joined us.
Exactly enough to start the revolution.
OLD WORDS keep you where you're at.
Old words keep you thinking and living and getting the same.
These are the OLD WORDS.
These are the NEW WORDS of the revolution;
New words give you new perspective and
new perspectives give you new results and new experiences:
Born to Be.
Ours is a revolution in HOW. Change your How and you change
the quality and the quantity of your results:
How you live your life.
How you work your dream.
How you make a difference.
This revolution is being led by people who
think and work DIFFERENT.
We call it the 3 Hour Remarkable Work Week.
And we call it MIGHT.
Did you know that MIGHT is the only word
in the dictionary that means both Power and
This revolution is being led by mavericks
and creative types who work with power and possibility.
It's time for great souls to Awaken to their great MIGHT.
Join the revolution.
Before it's too late.
Before you lose yourself.
I'll leave it up to you to find us.
You shall know us by our VELOCITY.
Are there two aspects of your bliss that you can't put together logically?
I have a hard time rationally understanding how I can be both a success coach and an artist. To me, they almost seem at odds with each other.
I must confess I've long felt like it was almost a curse, to not just have the desire to be one of the two. It would be so much simpler from my career perspectives. And I might be so much more easily understood by those trying to understand who I am. Oh Patrick, he's a speaker. Or, Oh Patrick, he's a theater solo show performer. Then I'd have one website. One focus. One brochure. And you'd have an easy understanding of me.
I've spent more days than I care for you to know trying to figure which one I truly am, so that I can leave the other behind – and just be the best version of the ONE me I can. Instead of two versions of me.
But I think I've finally figured it out. I am who I am. And the way I tick inside doesn't fit into a tidy box. I am not a speaker, or an monologist, or a coach, or a entrepreneur – I'm a complex mix of many blissful desires that when played out on life's stage add up to the photo album of my life – one of much variety. On stage in a theater one day, a comedic actor. On stage another day, an inspirational speaker. At the head of a table another day, a large company co-founder.
Not that there isn't a theme, a thru-line to it all because there is: No matter what I'm doing; speaking, writing, storytelling, comedy, entrepreneuring, or interviewing – what's always present is my authentic and unique spirit. Somewhere in all these things, my true essence is present. I don't pretend to know what my true essence appears to be to others. (Please tell me if you do) But I know it's present because I don't do things that aren't truly me.
I've got to pay bills, make my mortgage, support my family, blah, blah, blah – but I've always got to be me doing it.
George Carlin was 20 years into a successful comedy career when he was very clear that the problem was that there was no real George Carlin in the George Carlin comedy show. So although successful he was deeply unsatisfied. Of course I'm still seeking the truest version of my artist voice every time I work, but I think I've been fortunate to get a good portion of my true self into all my work.
I'm on a photo shoot today, and just thought I'd type a note instead of doing nothing during the waiting, so let me wrap this up and figure out what I'm trying to say here…
Being true to who I actually am has meant coming to terms that I am the complex mix of my blissful urges. They don't fit neatly into a simple category that makes me simple to understand. And that's very good thing. Because if we have the courage to express our true complex self, that's what makes us not like everybody else.
speaker, author, actor, storyteller, entrepreneur, artist, coach, interviewer, teacher, learner, optimist, realist, nice guy, jerk, outward, inward, foolish, wise, serious, ridiculous, pleasant, moody, kind, screw up, do gooder, self-centered, big hearted, open-book, very private, loving, complex person.